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the banana project.

(read the back story or scroll down to the give away)

i’ve always dreamed of having neighbors.

the kind where you can run next door and borrow a cup of flour. already, some of you are thanking your lucky stars that i’m not your neighbor. trust me, if you are thinking this then i probably wouldn’t want you to be my neighbor either. fair. moving on. since moving onto our lovely street lined with lampposts (yes! lampposts!) i’ve noticed a few interesting things. the people. there is mrs. haynal on one side. she has lived in her home since 1968, raised all of her kids there and now lives widowed and resilient as ever. then to our left there is Bob, the electrician, and his wife jodi, who bring us tangelos. Mike, who owns a carpet cleaning company loves mountain dew and poker lives up the street, and Rick, the Catholic father to 8, lives down the street. Dick (and I can’t ever remember his wife’s name) live across the street with a backyard that goes on for miles. And lindsey and paul are to their left with the 9 month old twins.  lindsey sleeps, never. i see her out my window pushing those twins in the stroller every morning and every afternoon. we smile, wave and our tired eyes connect, that eye contact says it all. we nod and we know the feeling is mutual. i think with every wave we are secretly saying, “hang in there, you can do it, only a few more hours till your husband comes home, i didn’t sleep last night either and pushing this stroller feels like hell but only a few more pounds to lose till i fit back in those jeans, don’t worry about that baby spit up on your shoulder i don’t think anyone else sees it, you’re doing great, be strong, i see your kids watching tv everyday and i don’t judge you, one day we will have an uninterrupted conversation, i love your roses, etc.”

anyway, lindsey is one of those neighbors i’ve always dreamed of. she brings me her leftover Easter rolls, and i give her flowers, she runs over for a stamp and i pick her oranges. she dropped by yesterday to witness a lovely tantrum from my compassionate 2 year old whose melt down began over not having any bananas. right, because everyone needs to kick and scream over not having bananas. i’m taking crazy pills here people. so today i came home to find bananas dangling on my front door welcome sign.

love your neighbor as yourself. i wonder how i’m doing at this. i know that i have lots of good ideas on how i could love my neighbors, those i live next to and those in my heart, but then i look at my pocketbook and my ideas stay a nice little fantasy. i know in the past two weeks a stranger has left us a card full of cash on our windshield with a note attached saying, “spend on your family,” a dear friend volunteered her time to watch noelle so i can have some much needed time with just my two-year-old, and today, the bananas on my doorstep. my neighbors are loving me so well and i am feeling so loved.

…GIVE-AWAY…

here is the deal. i want to help one of you love your neighbors well. i have a friend whose laundry detergent always gets stolen at their apartment shared laundry mat. what if they could spend $75 on laundry detergent that they could leave in the shared space with a note, “for anyone short on change, help yourself…” i mean, really! or if you bought $75 worth of flowers and left them at your neighbors doorstep! how ridiculous and awesome would that be! or paid for the meal of family sitting next to you at a restaurant that you didn’t know? or bought groceries for the person behind you at vons? or gave your neighbor a gas card, a gift card to anthropologie, or bought them a ticket to Disneyland?!?! what could you do today to love, encourage, or bless your neighbors? what if i said all you have to do is leave a comment:

1) with the name of a neighbor (you live next to, friend, or stranger)

2) how would you use $75 to love that neighbor

you don’t even have to re-post my blog a million times! it is that easy! friday at noon not 1, but 4 people (i received a $225 donation towards the project today!!!!) will randomly be picked and i’ll mail you a $75 master card so you can love your neighbor.

i’m going bananas for the ‘banana project!’ seriously, i’m so excited and a tad corny, i know! i can’t wait to read your ideas and be inspired.

and now… a few pictures of my little obsessions…

by anjuli

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Chicco - I truly love your blog.. Pleasant colors & theme. Did you develop this site yourself? Please reply back as I'm planning to create my own website and would like to know where you got this from or exactly what the theme is called. Appreciate it!May 15, 2012 - 10:05 pm

Kelly Parkins - I just love your blogs Anjuli!! I was just discussing with Dan that we need to start loving our neighbors as ourselves. My neighbor who lives right next store to us and has three young kids comes over once a week and helps me clean. She even scrubs my toilets ( I always tell her no, but she insists)! I think she has made us dinner 5 times since the baby arrived, she loves the Lord and you can tell! Her loving actions question what I am doing for those who live close by to me. Neighbors are such a blessing. :) I am sure all of your neighbors love u guys!!May 2, 2012 - 2:33 pm

Sharon - Just read this and absolutely love it!April 16, 2012 - 4:22 pm

DT - I made a new friend. I reached out to her after reading her blog (dearmissaudrey.blogspot.com). She tragically lost her soulmate, her husband in a accident while he was travelling internationally. She was notified of his death by a phone conversation Their baby girl was 20 months at the time. It has been three years now since his passing, and Julia is still wading through the sorrow of widowhood and unexpected single momhood. She reminds me of my own mother in many ways. I would send her the gift card to use towards a counselling session or anything else she may need (she is not working right now) for herself. Check out her blog, shes a tiger with a gentle heart, and I think you have a lot in common with her.April 13, 2012 - 10:54 am

Cyndie - This is so wonderful and hearing how each person wants and desires to just love on their neighbor/friends. This is what God calls us as believers to do. My prayer for my friends/neighbors that I've been praying for is that I would be in the Spirit so that I can see the need and meet it. Chuck has been doing an amazing job with our neighbor who does not know the Lord and is very rough around the edges, he goes over and talks to him, helps him feed his cows, fixes his cars and just thanks him for being our neighbor. We have seen this tough exterior starting to crumble. God is working and we are being blessed by God and by our neighbor. Thank you for this post cause it is causing me to pray even more for my neighbors/friends whom I really need to love!April 13, 2012 - 9:04 am

Katie - We have dear friends - Brook and Aaron - a fellow seminary couple, that live in a tiny studio down the street from us who are due with their first baby in July. I'd use the gift to throw her the perfect baby shower, and stock them up on diapers!April 13, 2012 - 8:35 am

anne cater - I work with very low income moms - a few times I have wished so badly I could help them personally: buy a baby bjorn or a stroller or something. For Christmas a friend and I went in and anonymously bought a previously homeless mom with new twins and a husband in jail some little outfits and a coloring book for the older sister. Our church's deacon fund then donated $100 toward a target gift card. It was so amazing to be able to bless her in that way and we just prayed she would see God's love in it. If I had another $75 I would find other moms (not hard) who could use a baby carrier or a nursing tank top... Great idea, Anjuli!!April 13, 2012 - 7:30 am

Mike Upson - I would like to walk Into Iron Fist Brewing Co in Vista (they are REALLY good people who rely on local support) and buy a pint of beer for 15 strangers. It doesn't happen very often where you have the ability to make 15 people smile, and good local craft beer is a great way to make that happen. I would literally be able to positively touch those 15 people, the entire family run staff at Iron Fist, AND create a pay it forward situation. It would be awesome! Just like your offer!April 13, 2012 - 1:34 am

Holly Mikovits - I have a dear friend..she started as my next door neighbor when she was 12 years old and I was a young mom.She helped me when I needed a break and eventually started helping me with a part time job I had at my church.Long story short..after several yrs she came to know Christ..then her sisters as well! They moved away and then we did as well and now she is a mom herself and lives in Maryland.She as been married for 12 years and has 4 children. Last month out of the blue her husband took their children, closed their bank acct so she had no access to any finances.She is now living in a shelter with nothing.My heart breaks for her and I send her $ and anything I can to help..she is relying on the Lordin spite of her seemingly hopeless situation and I am so blessed to call her friend! I would send the $ to her, I know it would really encourage her!April 12, 2012 - 11:08 pm

Melissa Allensworth - My neighbors just lost their 10 yr old dog. The owners still can't toss the toys or collar and tear up everytime they see them. I would love to give them the $75 with the poem about while missing your dog, there are plenty in need of adoption who would love to be an addition of the family.April 12, 2012 - 9:28 pm

Kelli - Love this Anjuli! We have an 80 year old neighbor who goes around our street on trash day and brings everyone's trash cans up to their side gate. We are talking about 20 or so houses with 2-3 cans at each house! His health is not that great, but he does it anyway just because he enjoys it. He will also water your plants and grass if they look a little dry. I would love to give the gift card to him and his wife to thank them for being such thoughtful neighbors. They made us feel welcome and accepted in our new neighborhood when I was feeling insecure and unsure of my "place" in this new town.April 12, 2012 - 9:09 pm

Deanna - We just moved to La Mesa into a house that we are renting. Its our first "house" together and we are loving the space! I would love to use the money to buy each of our neighbors (we don't have too many...country road!) a plant with a card (and maybe a sweet treat!) introducing ourselves. We have heard from the owner that two of the neighbors hardly leave the house...they are older and I think it might just brighten their day. This is SUCH a great idea, Anjuli!April 12, 2012 - 7:35 pm

Amanda Shields - We JUST had a phone call today from someone who's electricity, rent, and all sorts of bills are way past due and need some help. We would use this money to help him. He's on the edge of making the Lord his Savior and has been blown away by the love and support our church has shown him. We're praying for him and I would love to be able to bless him!April 12, 2012 - 7:35 pm

Jessica - O Anjuli! How beautiful - reminds me of Pay it Forward and Aunt m & Uncle. :) to me, they embody the neighbourly love God asks of us. It almost seems they live to give and love. :) as a teacher, I spend more time with my students and in school than at home. They are my neighbours in this season of life. 98% of them receive free or reduced lunch and knowing some of their stories make my heart break. With the extra money, I would buy each of them their own journal. Over spring break I made books for about 25 of them to journal in everyday for a week - just so that they could see the joy in writing and reflecting. Almost all of them did so enthusiastically. :) many want to keep journaling so I was planning on on buying them a solid, hard cover first journal.April 12, 2012 - 7:34 pm

Derek Early - I'd take my co-worker Bryan on a shopping spree at Sprouts because food has always been the medium through which we connect and share quality time. Bryan is a tremendous individual full of heart and spirit, though he lacks a relationship with the One who changes hearts and gives out His own spirit. I'd love to treat Bryan to a feast as an example of how God let's me feast in his life and joy everyday. This is so cool, thanks for doing this Anjuli. P.S. walked by Wanida at church the other day and heard her chatting and she sounds just like you. I wanted to just walk up to her and say, "I feel like I know you because I know Anjuli." I decided against it due to the Creepy factor. Next time perhaps. Miss you and Sam, see you soon hopefully.April 12, 2012 - 7:26 pm

Jennifer - Last Wednesday I packed up all 24 yrs of my life into three suitcases, four small xerox boxes, and left California to head out to Wisconsin. In addition to leaving behind sunny socal and all my family, I also had to say goodbye to my friend, Carolina. Every now and then I think of how she'd always call and ask if I could drive someplace to run an errand for her-- and I miss it. Now that I'm two thousand miles away I can't go help her out like before, or wake up early in the morning to her phone call asking me if I could hurry up to her house before G&E shut off the water heater (and not to mention, before I could change out of my pajamas). I would use the $75 to send Carolina a bucket load of the classic white daisies with yellow in the center.April 12, 2012 - 7:08 pm

Cara - This is such a beautiful idea Anjuli! I live by the beach in a pretty affluent neighborhood and when thinking of neighbors I considered mine. A single mom with 2 grown children, the college kids that smoke weedalex play loud music, the young professionals with the yappy dog and then a found myself staring out my window. What could my neighbors need? At that point one of the familiar homeless men that I frequently see on my morning or afternoon commute walks by pushing his shopping cart full of bottles and cans and talking to himself. As the weather gets warmer I have been noticing and increase in the number of homeless people in my neighborhood. Some old, some young. Some tormented, some sad and withdrawn from the world. Some that scare the daylights out of me. Watching them day in and day out the question has been heavy on my heart how I could serve them and make them feel like somebody who is noticed and cared about. With $75 I would like to make care packages and pass them out to some that intrigue me the most. I'd love to ask them their name and maybe something seemingly insignificant like their favorite color. This terrifies and excites me at the same time. Sometimes people just need to be noticed and in a positive way. Regardless if you pick me I will complete this mission. Thanks for inspiring me!April 12, 2012 - 6:33 pm

Maria Nielsen - Not my neighbor any more, buy when I read this I thought of brother Timothy. Would love to win:), so we could help him with rent money at his new place, or maybe for some groceries:).April 12, 2012 - 6:17 pm

malina - I wish you were my neighbor too! these ideas are so inspiring and moving. i'm not sure what i will do yet but i'm sure i'll know what my bananna project will be when i see it.April 12, 2012 - 1:39 pm

JoninBlack - Every summer churches in our area get together and have a community outreach day. We give a way free clothes, free week of groceries, free medical screening, free dental screening and free hair cuts. All donated goods and services from people in the community. I would use the money towards this event. Thanks Anjuli for being a good neighbor to use all with your Wednesday blog.April 12, 2012 - 11:09 am

Jenna Leigh - I don't have a sad story but more of a joyful one! We moved from a big city to a tiny commuters town when our jobs led us this way... it is tiny, like 2,000 people tiny! We rent a lovely condo with neighbors that are our parents and grandparents age. Ned and Carol welcomed us in with open arms, they have been married over 50 years and exemplify what we as a couple hope to be when we are their age. They are always smiling and supporting each other. Ned still refers to Carol as his bride. They walk their dogs, Freida and Fredrick hand in hand everyday and escape on biking adventures when weather permits, they even get wings and beer every Monday! I truly adore watching their relationships, their love and zest for life. It gives us newlyweds something to look up to and admire. I would LOVE to treat them to wings and beer on a Monday evening to let them tell their tales and for us to listen, I think we can learn so much from the older generation and having them here gives me such a sense of peace.April 12, 2012 - 8:55 am

Rena Frey - I just met our new neighbors, Sarah & Ron and their two twin boys, Shaun & Ian. I would love to show neighborly and God's love to them by giving them a gas card and some flowers to decorate their front stoop. Great idea, Anjuli!!!April 11, 2012 - 9:52 pm

Melissa McDougall - I would help my neighbor celebrate her next birthday in style. Get flowers and take her to a very nice dinner. Because she is a mom, who we call Miss Jan, in her 50s who lives with her daughter, Rianne. Miss Jan's husband chose to end his life two years ago when he committed suicide, and I know they still feel the loss. So I would treat her since he can't. And make sure she go plenty of hugs from my kids. She has been kind to us since we first moved in, watching out for our kids when they're about to run into the street, offering to watch them when Ian and I have conflicting schedules. I would show her we care.April 11, 2012 - 9:10 pm

Katie - My friend's mother unexpectantly passed away on Easter morning. I would love to bless her with flowers, a massage, dinner out, etc.. My friend is one of the most generous, faithful and loving people I know. I hope to bless her and comfort her just as she has been a true gift in the lives of many (mine included!).April 11, 2012 - 8:58 pm

carol - There is an older lady named Jean that lives two doors down. She lives alone and has for the 16 years we have lived here. She takes in stray anmimals. . . any and every kind from birds to dogs that weigh more than her. I think right now she cares for two dogs, at least two cats, and who knows what else. She has a kind heart. She is never too busy for a lost animal. I don't think she is rich. She mows her own lawn and trims her own hedges. She is probably in her 70's. This doesn't compare to the other stories, but I think I would pay for her yard to be "caught up" for her. Or, maybe to buy a gift cart to PetCo.April 11, 2012 - 8:47 pm

Sam Paschall - $75. I'd take one of my former students who is coming out of a very dark season and I'd buy him some new surf gear and take him surfing and tell him that God will never give up on loving him and that one day, Lord willing, that truth will change everything for him.April 11, 2012 - 8:14 pm

Kelley - This is really sweet. I'm blessed to have wonderful neighbors as well. I'm not entering, I just want to say that I think you should pick Rissa. I can't imagine the helplessness that young mama must feel. Sweet of your reader to want to reach out to her!April 11, 2012 - 5:41 pm

Kim Freels - The neighbor my husband stands out front with and talks to often just left his live in girlfriend high and dry with no way to pay rent. She talked to my husband just last night and is the sweetest woman. I'm sure if she can't afford $750, then $75 won't help pay that. But it will be able to put a smile on her face. She has kids so I think I would want to help her in that way. Maybe a card for groceries or a hot meal. That is funny how that just happen yesterday and now you posted this blog! I think this is a fantastic idea and I want to try and step out of my comfort zone more often to be a good neighbor. Thanks Anjuli!April 11, 2012 - 4:32 pm

rissa - There's a neighbor around the corner that I haven't met yet but heard of her story through mutual friends. She (a wife and mom of 2 young kids) is dying of cancer. I don't know what she needs...what does one do for another who is trapped in the rawness of humanity? I don't know if she needs a Starbucks delivery every day for a month or if she needs someone to come open up the windows of her house when the sun is shining. I don't know if she needs a gourmet dinner for 2 cooked in her house by a chef, or someone to drive her kids to school somedays, or if flowers would brighten dark days. But I intend to find out how to be a neighbor to this stranger, this friend?April 11, 2012 - 11:03 am

Irene - So my mother in law is pretty amazing. I wish I had enough money to send her to a spa every week for all she does for us and those around her. She will go out of her way to make meals for anybody...even if she doesn't have much money and even if she didn't know them. She bakes cookies for Chloe's friends, she offers to take the kids atleast once a week to give me a break, and she will clean my blinds, goes grocery shopping for me, will help me plant an apple tree, run around WalMart with me just because...but the nice thing is she never looks down on me even tho she sees how crazy chaos my house is. I'd send her to a spa if you pick me. Oh...it would be kinda cool if you were my neighbor.April 11, 2012 - 9:48 am

Marsha Keating - No need to enter me in the contest, butI have to share that my husband is the most amazing neighbor to the people around us for the past 25 years. The latest and greatest thing he did was Easter Sunday, when he was DEAD tired, a neighbor asked if he could come over and catch a lizard under her fridge. Her husband was gone on a trip and she was afraid of where the lizard would go in the middle of the night. It took him 30 minutes, but he got it. We got banana bread for that heroic act of kindness:) I am inspired by his generous gifts of time: squeezing OJ for the newest neighbors last week, helping others trap gophers and constantly loaning his tools and old wheelbarrow. Thanks for sharing your blessings!April 11, 2012 - 9:24 am

Miriam Maneevone - Sorry, I should proof read before I hit done! How could I not mention how darling noelle hope is!!! What a sweet heart... Of course her brothers are my delight as well!! Think I'll take bananas to my class tonight! :-)April 11, 2012 - 9:17 am

Miriam Maneevone - Love going bananas blog... This is reaaly fun- I already give "bananas" when Abba prompts me. I guess since I'm a teacher, neighbors for me includes my student.... I take snacks and coffee each week - mostly goodies left from icf or tangelos from our trees...But one thing is hard for some- the textbook for the class is $90. I bought a "class set" of the C.S. Lewis-"The Lion, The Witch and the Wardrobe" with four CDs, so I can use then each semester.. And procured a set of Pronunciation books from the department... But I don't buy them the vocabulary book. Qays is an "older" gentleman from Iraq, in his late fifties?, that suffered terribly under Sadam Hussein - he's actually a pilot who flew the largest plane in the world.. a Russian army plane...he's holding down several jobs -he is the only transportation for his big family (wife is sick) and is desperately trying to improve his English. He is weeks behind in his homework...found out- he has not been able to buy his textbook yet! (10 weeks into the semester!) I would use the $75 toward buying him the class textbook. I already away my instructor's copy last semester. Just an idea.April 11, 2012 - 8:53 am

Kelly Mochel - My tooth fractured majorly yesterday. I freaked out. At school dropoff I burst into tears telling my friend and neighbor what had happened. Her jaw dropped and she proceeded to tell me she was up all night with a nightmare about her own tooth fracturing?! She stood by me outside while I called the dentist, begging through tears for an emergency appointment. As soon as the words '9am? Yes, thanks...' left my mouth, she and her husband mobilized - threw my van doors open, yanked my two carseats out, hugged up on my two year old and started explaining that she got to take a ride in their van to their house and were going to make smoothies and paint nails while I cried on the phone and confirmed the appointment. Her husband injured himself at work yet no workman's comp check has come. Their fridge is empty, yet my kids came home happy and full. I'd like to buy them a big yummy organic food basket, with a small bouquet and a homemade thank you card. Thanks.April 11, 2012 - 8:27 am

Kara Ryska - On Saturday evening I thought of the most wonderful way to bless my friends and almost neighbors, but the reality of having a newborn along two other wonderful children, combined with the fact that it was going beyond my spending capabilities, my beautiful idea, stayed an idea. This family had a baby on April 1st, a beautiful healthy boy. The same day, the father got news that his only brother had a major stroke at 35. Two days later he left his newborn to be with his brother. Three days later, he lost his only brother. His wife bravely supported him from afar, while she looked after their 2.5 year old and a new baby without him. I wanted to bring a surprise Easter brunch in a basket and leave it on their doorstep. I know from experience, that when faced with the most unbelievable challenge, it helps when you have the outpouring of love from those around you.April 11, 2012 - 7:47 am

Leah Allen - I have a friend who's husband just recently left the marriage and she just gave birth to her first little bundle of love (a son) on Monday morning. I would really like to use the 75 dollars to buy her groceries and diapers as now she is a brand new mom let alone single mom with no family that lives in this state. Thats what i would do to love my neighbor/friend.April 11, 2012 - 6:33 am

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